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let's talk about mental illness

this is a space to discuss the stigma mentally ill people face (particularly those with psychosis/schizospectrum disorders, PDs, bipolar disorder, and others often shut out of the usual discourse on illness); to provide resources for mentally ill people; and other things related to mental illness.

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alcomol:

honestly if you won’t support people with psychosis/schizophrenia because they’re “dangerous” you are a terrible person

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prince-ghoul:

if u know someone has problems w communication and they try to talk to u then be patient and kind w them don’t make fun of their communicatory skills because that’s ableist and just rlly bad to do

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I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?” -

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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i appreciate this, but also this is so hard when you and most of your friends are all mentally ill

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vampirepun:

mentally ill people can be confusing and belligerent and unfriendly and ungrateful and violent and not want to be medicated and STILL be entirely fucking deserving of your help and support lmao you don’t just get to handpick the nice ones

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gutcolour:

gutcolour:

i don’t get what’s so hard to understand about the idea that a person can know right from wrong without feeling the Appropriate Emotions

like are you so morally bankrupt that the only thing preventing you from hurting other people is that it makes you feel bad, what

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isaacfloof:

okie so i know it’s really important to not blame violence on mental illness 

but can we also make some space for mentally ill people who do have issues with rage and anger and violence

bc saying “stop conflating mental illness with violence we’re not violent!!!” is ableist and shitty bc you’re saying “we’re not like THOSE mentally ill people” 

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lifeislikeabadrpg:

"Don’t be defined by your condition" often seems to mean "pretend your condition doesn’t shape your life or else".

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autanuki:

self diagnosis is valid

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grant-kendrell:

destroy the notion that someone’s mental health is what makes them evil.

destroy the notion that mental illnesses make bad people.

destroy the notion that you can’t be an outright awful person without being mentally ill.

destroy the notion that neurotypical people can do no harm.

destroy ableism.

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silversarcasm:

please remember that seeing disabled people as inspirations just for being disabled is not a compliment, it reduces us to props to be used to help abled people and strips us of our humanity

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